First of all, congratulations on asking how to make your wife horny! Most people just try to get laid outside their marriage. Although that’s a legit option (who am I to judge) if you’re trying to mend your relationship with your wife, you deserve a huge bonus. It’s a sign of maturity and mature and responsible men do get laid more than the rest. I don’t have one simple answer to the complex question: “How to make my wife horny? But I will try to advise you on how to remove the main obstacles and help her get into the mood. Let’s get rid of those long and exhausting dry spells.
What Ruins Your Wife’s Libido
The most important thing is to remember that you don’t want to ruin your wife’s sexual desire.
If you can do anything actively to make her horny, then at least don’t make her get away from you as fast as she can!
There are several reasons why women don’t get horny. Some of them are more challenging to eliminate. And some of them are simple and you can easily deal with them on a daily basis.
- A serious problem in your relationship. If the issue is serious, you should take care of it before it wreaks havoc on your wife’s sexual desire. For example, your wife is resentful or angry about something that happened in the past and you haven’t resolved that. She will be no up for it.
- Women are in for active pursuit. You shouldn’t take her for granted. That doesn’t include tiptoeing around her, but… If she feels that you’re taking her for granted then you’re most likely to end up with the hand job. When you underappreciate her, those wild and sexy nights become history. So, stick to respect, appreciation, and even admiration as three crucial factors you need to maintain fulfilling sex and enjoy having great sex even after long years in marriage.
- High expectations. Lower your and her expectations in long-term relationships. It’s not the same as the first day you met.
In any case, if you want to have wild sex and meet new people to refresh a stale relationship outside of your marriage then you can use affair hookup sites and do that independently of what you do with your wife. However, if your wife learns about that, I’m not sure that’s something that will make her horny. Most probably, it will make her angry if you don’t have an open marriage.
Tips to Make Your Wife Horny
Women are emotional creatures and need some stimulation and connection to enjoy sex. So what can you do to boost these factors in your marriage?
1. Communicate throughout the day.
Keep in touch all day, and not only in the evening when you get back home, and expect her to open to your sexual innuendos. You can send the occasional sexy messages. If you want to use a sex chat app, there are a few good ones you can use. That can encourage your wife to open up. However, don’t make it all around sex because that’s so lame. It can pour a cold bucket over your wife’s libido. You can ask her about her day and what can you do for her. If this is too much for you – get a grip on yourself and man up to pleasure your wife as good as possible, and vice versa.
2. Make it about her, too.
If you think that your wife doesn’t like sex, you’re terribly wrong. There is a reason she doesn’t want it. If you’re selfish in sex, then it’s probably it! Include foreplay and make sure she is relaxed. Do it slowly. Don’t rush into the main thing and do it all about you and your erection and orgasm. That’s so immature and lame, and it can work only with teenagers who have no clue about sex.
3. Surprise her with erotic fantasy.
You can get kinky or more mainstream. You would be surprised to learn the many women are kinky too and enjoy the stuff you may not assume they like. But if you’re married for a long time to this woman and you know her well and she hasn’t fulfilled a sexual fantasy, she is just not into that. You better stay away from the subject. It’s best to work in the sexual areas you both agree to turn you on. Introduce novelties slowly. Rent a good erotic movie, soft porn, or hard porn. But it has to be something your wife likes. Get toys, vibrators, visit a spa, anything to wind down.
4. Let her see you in a new light.
Do you know why so many marriages start brimming with horny couples having sex several times a day and then slowly burning out over the weeks, months, and years? That’s because people learn too much about each other. Boring intimacy creeps in. There is no erotica and no novelty. To solve this, you need to create excitement in your marriage. Instead of having an affair (which is the usual choice for many people when they get bored), you can do something with yourself. Get a new job, get an exciting hobby, for example, something athletic. Take a trip, just do something that excited you and you always wanted to do but never had the courage to do it. Trust me, when your wife sees you in a new light (that you have huge balls, metaphorically) you will be extremely attractive! And it will for sure make her horny as hell!
5. Consider health factors.
You need solid physical, psychological, mental, and emotional health to enjoy sex to the maximum. First, eat good food. Second, sweat. Exercise to stay in shape and take care of your body and mind. Take time for sex dates and ensure your wife has plenty of time to rest. If she’s tired, the only thing she sees in the evening is the bed. She won’t have the slightest wish to join you and have sex with you. Visit a sex therapist if necessary to improve a sex issue. Do periodical health checks to see if something is completely out of order. Female hormones can help as well.
Those were my five basic tips for making your wife horny. If you need more advice on how to make your wife horny as Dante’s hell, you can borrow some of the sexual advice I have posted in the relevant section on this website.
Then, spill out your experience in the comments. I’d be happy to hear this helped you make your wife horny.
